Book: The Lo-Down
Author: Lo Bosworth
Publisher: Simon & Schuster
Release Date: January 11, 2011
Rating: 4.5 of 5
Reality TV personality Lauren "Lo" Bosworth has witnessed her fair share of bad dating and has experienced some herself. As a star on two reality shows, she is no stranger to drama and what comes along with it. Now she is offering her advice gleaned from her and her famous friends' relationship experiences on dating and love. Featuring personal photos and anecdotes about her experiences on "Laguna Beach" and "The Hills", The Lo-Down is a further glimpse into the lives of the people that have enthralled so many.
I know what you're thinking: "Oh boy. Here we go again. Another celebrity who thinks they can write a book." Even if you were a Laguna Beach lover, and an avid watcher of The Hills, you still might feel that way. I'm here to tell you that you would be wrong to think so.
Advice books are not my favourite; especially when they are written by celebrities. Sometimes though I find one that actually has something to say (before The Lo-Down it was Teri Hatcher's Burnt Toast).The Lo-Down is not merely a bitter diatribe about disaster relationships, but it is also not all sunshine and rainbows. Lo Bosworth doesn't sugarcoat relationships in this book; rather she emphasizes that they are hard work and that they take two dedicated people. As soon as I relaized that this was the message of this book it was easier to really "listen" to her advice.
The first thing that I noticed about this book is the way it is structured. Bosworth uses personality descriptions, relationship examples, quizzes, and even some recipes to explain the do's and don'ts of relationships. The variety of content in this book is reason enough to pick it up. It seems to offer a lot more than one might think given the genre. Personally I found the decriptions of the "Baddies" to be quite interesting. The "Baddies", for those of you who don't know, are the types of guys that we tend to be attracted to but the ones that never seem to meet our expectations. You all know one of these guys, possibly you have even dated a couple of them. Either way, Bosworth outlines what to look out for so that you can spot a "Baddie" early on.
Bosworth's tone in this book is non authoratative; rather it is like listening to one of your girlfriends as they dish out advice. It is this approach that will no doubt appeal to teen girls who are looking for someone to treat them as an equal. Bosworth not only carries this tone, but she reflects on her own experiences (and blunders) as a way of connecting with her audience. She reveals that she is not perfect and that she has made relationship mistakes in the past.
My favourite part of this book? Bosworth's analogy about how we are all unique puzzle pieces. It is this through this analogy that she tells girls not to try to force their puzzle piece to fit with a guys. As she says, you wouldn't change a puzzle piece to make it fit in a puzzle, so why would you ever think about changing yourself to fit with a guy? It makes a lot of sense if you really think about it. Bosworth's idea about finding the right puzzle piece that fits with yours might just have some merit. You should never have to compromise who you are to fit in someone else's life.
From start to finish The Lo-Down gives an honest perspective about how to build a lasting relationship. Bosworth focuses on empowering yourself as a woman and as a unique human being. She sets out with her "Golden Rule" which will crush any believers in the "He's Just Not That Into You". This "Golden Rule" is one that I will no doubt be living by; it says that "He just wasn't the right guy for you". I'm not saying that this book has cured my cynical view of relationships, or that it has erased my insecurities, but It has given me a lot to consider. And what more can I really ask for?
*Thank you to Simon & Schuster for sending me this ARC for review.